DR HARLINA'S SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tips no. 1 - 50

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 1 - Reflect on the main reason you become a teacher in the first place. Was it your childhood dream or mainly because you did not have much choices then? Why on earth are you still a teacher now? Find the answers in your heart. What you are today is a result of how you first took off in this noble profession...

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 2 - Assign a special task to your students today : ` Write ONE word that best describes my teacher, Puan/Mrs/Dr/Prof/Mdm ....(fill in the blank with your own name)' Provide each student with a post-it note. Input should be anonymous. Pass around a small box to collect the notes. Paste them on a wall surface (in your bedroom) - the words describe what the students see in you!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 3 - Prioritize the weakest student in your class, instead of the cleverest. Those who are gifted with superb IQ could sail thru' without much of your help. It's the weakest who needs you the most. Don't ignore him/her. Look at her/him with a different perspective today - full with hopes & dreams!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 4 - Be a great teacher who inspires. From William Hart - a mediocre teacher tells, a good teacher explains, a superior teacher demonstrates & a great teacher inspires! Convince your students that you're a different breed of teacher - the one who really cares & prays for them, every time, every day!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 5 - Honour the students' trust in you. Keep their secrets. Do not spread out the private info they confided in you to other teachers in the school, unless it's related to safety and legal matters. Even then, just tell the principle/headmaster. Confidentiality is a part of teaching ethics.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 6 - Teach with all your heart, imagine the students are your own flesh and blood. Thank Allah (again & again) for the honour of being a teacher. Focus your energy before stepping into class. Remind yourself of the responsibilities put on your shoulders. Finish this statement : ` At the end of this session, my students should be able to.....'

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS - Tip no.7 - Look back into history - all great individuals were teachers. Rasulullah SAW was a great mu'allim/murrabi. Imam Al-Ghazali, Ibnu Sina, Gandhi, Hippocrates, Buddha, Lao Tzu, Mother Teresa, the list is non-exhaustive. These great people shared a common teaching style - they touched the hearts of each student they encountered (student-centred teaching). How about you?

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS - Tip no.8 - Read, read and read more! Teachers are readers and readers are leaders. Lead your students to explore the marvellous world of knowledge & virtue. Look up for new books & re-read the old ones. Reading builds up creativity of teachers. So, what book are you reading now?

URVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS - Tip no.9 - Shine as your students' best role model, esp. for those who do not have one at home. Practise what you preach, and walk the talk. For students who only have bad role modelling all these while, YOU are their shining beacon, salvation and last hope. Don't let them down, please...

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS - Tip no.10 - Serve as your students' life mentor. Do you still receive SMS, emails, wedding cards, festive greetings and well wishes years after your students have left school/college? Did the old students look for you whenever they came visiting? If so, rejoice...for you're indeed your students' life mentor! If not and you do not really mind, you might have never meant to be one.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no.11 - Remind yourself that teaching profession will not propel you to stardom and wealth. It is indeed a very humble and modest profession. If you're able to turn your teaching career into money-churning business, maybe it helps to pause awhile and rethink. Are you taking advantages of the public's (esp. parents') feeling of insecurity, inadequacy and ignorance? I really hope not....
SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no.12 - Pat yourself at the back sometimes, especially after a long day at school. Convince yourself that you've done what you could, as best as you would. The end product is not yours to determine. It is indeed sad to see why students keep choosing wrong decisions all the time.At the end of the day, you just have to move on...
SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no.13 - Smile whenever you're facing your students in class. Experience the `lightness & feel-good feeling' that comes with it. See the counter response from your students, they'll be more cheerful, relaxed and attentive. Enjoy the session together...and before you know it, there goes the bell!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 14 - Avoid burn out by ensuring that you're sincere in your teachings. At times when you feel like giving up, check your intentions - there might be secondary (inferior) motives. Pause, reflect & contemplate. You have to recharge your batteries & dynamo to keep shining!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 15 - Be a `student-friendly' and `stress-free' teacher. Provide a safe environment for your students to make mistakes and learn, yet be clear of what you expect from them. Only the best and nothing less! You can strike the balance between being fair, realistic and strict all at the same time.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 16 - Pray for your students, every single one of them. Visualize their faces as you say your prayers. Beg Allah to bestow you with wisdom, patience and dedication. You definitely depend on divine intervention to complete this noble teaching mission. Ask nothing in return, except for Allah's blessings.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 17 - Share a part of you with your students. Do not be aloof and detached from them. Tell them about your life experiences - esp. those that have changed you to be a better person. Yet, do not ever try to be boastful - they can easily tell when you're inflating yourself!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 18 - Be creative in class . Surprise your students with new style of teaching & learning materials. Bring them out of the class, guide them to discover the biggest book, spread open in-front of them : the world & universe. Learning is supposed to be fun, thrilling & enjoyable!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 19 - Contain your anger the next time you almost blow your top in front of the class! Push the `pause' button. Give yourself and the students time-out...I suggest you tell them why you're angry, assign a short redemption task , step out of the class, return after 10 min - InsyaAllah, you'll find a more cooperative class - how grateful they are that you do not shout this time!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 20 - Be humble, lower down your wings. Humility will never make you inferior. Avoid being a snob, or feeling more superior. Stop looking down at others. It takes a lot of courage and sense of security to be humble, especially if you have achieved so much in life. You will gain more respect from students and colleagues if you're humble, Just mark my words.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 21 - Aim to greet your students first, before they greet you. Surprise them with your warm salam/hello, calling out their names (if you have good memory) at the end of the greeting.Enjoy their initial `stunned' facial expression. Dale Carnegie reminded us : The most important word a person would like to hear is his/her own name!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 22 - Be a good team member among the teaching staff. Demonstrate outstanding tolerance, cooperation and teamwork. Do not back-bite, gossip or talk bad about other teachers infront of your class. Settle all misunderstandings with colleagues. Never turn the teaching staffroom into a war zone!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 23 - Use encouraging words when you're giving feedback to students. Replace all those harsh, bitter, humiliating critics with better alternatives words in your comments. Be aware of your body languages. Constant degradation and humiliation is the WORST form of teaching! If that's your usual feedback strategy, it is indeed high time to change!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 24 - Extend your friendly hands to your partners in this noble mission of teaching; the parents & guardians of your students! They might not seem to be interested or just too busy to supervise their children, yet their role is indeed pivotal. Engage them as much as you can, don't give up! How about sending them an informal personal friendship card through their children? You might see an increase turn-ups in the next PTA meeting!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 25 - Be exceptionally strong in your spiritual development. A doctor's soul needs constant enhancement and purification. It's your pure and sincere intention that serves as a shining beacon in the dark, showing you the way. Do not ever neglect your soul, or else you'll get easily demotivated, demoralized, derailed and defeated!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 26 - Recall your own teacher whom you liked most. What was the main quality in that particular teacher that made him/her exceptionally special, at least to you, if not for anyone else? How about you now? Are you inspiring enough to your students? Does anyone in your class wish to be like YOU one day?

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 27 – Stop nagging your students. Instead, start listening to their heart messages. When your student complains that no matter what he/she does, it is never enough to please you – his/her heart message is saying ; `I hope you appreciate me and notice what I’m trying to do here.’ There’s no way you can hear those heart messages with your loud nagging noise at the background!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 28 - Involve yourself in voluntary social work within your neighbourhood to enrich your life experience and perspectives. Do not isolate yourself from your community. Display genuine and caring attitudes to others. A teacher is highly regarded in a society, for the wisdom and good deeds that he/she is expected to contribute. Just give yourself away, you'll get more in return, InsyaAllah!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 29 - Assist your students to discover Allah their Creator, their purpose of life, their destiny. Do not push TRUTH down their throats, they might regurgitate & vomit it all out. Allow them to come to their own conclusions. Be prepared to face their challenges & debates. After all, you want them to be critical thinkers, eh? Just lead their thoughts to Allah, and they will soon discover Him themselves.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 30 - Allocate the last five minutes of your teaching session for a short, special dedication to one of your students. One student for each session. It can be a line of poem, a Malay pantun, a remark or a statement that indicates your hope - with his/her name specifically mentioned in it. Start with the last student in the name list, going upward. Feel the anticipation & excitement buzzing in the class as each session comes to an end....Enjoy it!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 31 - Always bear in mind, there might be a few `late bloomers' in your class now. They are relatively slower in catching up with what you're teaching. Hold your tongue, do not degrade/compare them with the smart, brilliant students. Google `late bloomers' - you'll be surprised to see the famous names listed in this category!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 32 - Overcome your prejudice and bias. Do not discriminate. Different does not mean less good or much better. Manage diversity wisely by celebrating or embracing it. Or at least be tolerant and inclusive. There would not have been beautiful rainbows around without the seven different colours!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 33 - Avoid measuring your teaching success simply by the number of students scoring A for your subject. That might be the easiest way, but certainly not the most accurate. If only you could keep track of those students who were inspired by you, and shifted their paradigms for better lives & future - now, that is what I consider real success!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 34 - First, reflect and contemplate. Then regulate and align your actions. After that, correct all your mistakes and wrongdoings. Those are three steps towards building up your professionalism. Without ability to reflect, you will never realize your strengths & weaknesses, resistant towards feedback and will not be able to improve!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 35 - Adhere to principles. Let the students experience what principle-centredness really means. We have to disagree and dispute our close friends when they're doing wrongs, and compliment/praise our enemies if they're doing the right thing! How else would students learn about what's right or wrong - if it's not from the teachers! (parents included)

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 36 - Assist your students to adapt deep learning approach. Guide them to relate everything they learn to their daily lives, it is not merely to pass exams! Impress them with your massive knowledge & experience.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 37 - Do not expect much gratitudes from your students, especially after they have succeeded. Be grateful if they pray for you, even sometimes if not always. Allah knows exactly how much you have contributed for those young people's life and future. Stop worrying, just go on teaching.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 38 - Thank your students today before you step out of your class. Appreciate their determination to attend school everyday. Tell them how much you treasure their trust in you. After their usual sing-song thank, `Terima kasih Cikgu!', stand there for another 30 seconds & say `Terima kasih murid-muridku!' Say it out loud, clear and sincerely.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 39 - Be constantly reminded, as teachers, we cannot not role-model. Students are observing and watching. Choose between the two - as a good, exemplary role model or a bad one. The choice is totally yours!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 40 - Never be discouraged by your students' misconducts & lack of good manners. Those undesirable behaviours are indicators of existing gaps / loopholes in the education process of the individuals. Simply speaking, they haven't learned enough from their parents, teachers & other adults around them. Wonder if it is us (adults) who have not taught them enough?

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 41 - Pick a student today and walk down the corridor with him/her. Observe his/her body language. Does he/she look relax, comfortable and chatty? Or does he/she look tense, anxious and scared? You can try this tip if you are curious about how the students perceive you. If you couldn't bother to find out, simply ignore this tip....

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 42 - Practise student-centred teaching learning process. Focus on your learners. Identify their learning needs. Enough with teacher-centred learning, where you decide everything for the learners - what , why, who, where, when & how to learn. Stop pushing the learners to score good marks for your subject because it will make you look real good! Guide them from where they are.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 43 - Never worry that one day, your students would exceed you in so many ways. Do not feel insecure. Teach them all the knowledge & skills that you have. If they inform you that they are inspired to be like you, gently squeeze their hands, look straight into their eyes and say this with full sincerity: `I pray that you are going to be better than me.'

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 44 - Pray that today, you are going to help your students in your class realize that learning is supposed to be liberating, enjoyable and fun. At least, ONE student...if you can't do much for the rest. For that one student, she/he will soon venture to be an independent learner throughout his/her life. Then, you can sit back and say : Mission accomplished!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 45 - Treasure those proud moments when you witness your students graduating/ moving on to another phase of their lives. Pat yourself at the back, dear teacher - for you have done your little part and contributed your little share into the lives of those students. Pray that even if those were considered small deeds in the eyes of men, they would be regarded as significant enough in the eyes of Allah SWT!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 46 - Remind your students on the 4S of life - Survival, Stability, Success & Significance. Advise them to focus on their studies, get a degree and find a well-paid job - so they can accelerate past thru' Survival & Stability. Success depends on how they define it. This is the most treacherous phase where many had failed to handle. Only a few`successful' people can become Significant by sharing their success with others

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 47 - Bake a cake, order a pizza or buy `nasi lemak' for the class today. Surprise your students with unexpected treats from time to time. When they ask you why, give this answer : ` I'm thankful to God for giving me another day to teach you all. I might not be around tomorrow. But I want you all to know that I really care for each and every one of you!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 48 - Tell a short story about your favourite teacher to your class. Explain what you like most about his/her characters that made him/her your favourite. Share what was taught to you by this particular teacher that still stays with you until today. If the teacher has passed away, recite Al-Fatihah & prayers for him/her. You've just demonstrated to your students how to show continuous respect to teachers.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 49 - Inform your students about Gary Chapman's five love languages (how love is expressed) - affirmative words, gifts, quality time, acts of service & physical touch. Instruct them to choose one that made them feel most loved & write down the choice on a piece of paper. Collect the notes & make a list. Now you basically have the database on how to express your genuine care & love for your learners. This tip is especially dedicated to those who are always willing to go that EXTRA mile!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 50 - Walk your talk. Practise what you preach. If you're not capable to do so, talk less and stop preaching. Indeed, as teachers we have to role model the appropriate behaviours for our students to emulate. We are not perfect, therefore we have to keep improving ourselves. We have to go on carrying the torch....

Loves,
Dr. Har

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DR HARLINA'S SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tips no. 1 - 50

Salam

I am a blessed mother of three beautiful children since 1993 & thousands more medical students since 1997. I started writing these tips as FB page entry since June 29th, 2011. If you can benefit from these, let's share them with as many parents out there.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no.1 - Strive to be the best role model to your children. Make them proud of you first before you can expect them to make you proud. How about asking this question to your adolescent kids today : ` Have I ever made you proud, son/daughter?' Reflect on the answer, if you're gonna get one.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no.2 - Display your commitment, affection and love for each other (as parents & couple) for your children to see. Put on your best smiles the moment you step into the house, no matter how bad things are at work. Make your home as the sanctuary & heaven on earth for the kids. Keep it warm & cozy with your prayers and unconditional love for everyone.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 3 - Avoid degrading or talking bad about your spouse in front of the children. Remember, it is their father/mother you're complaining about. Don't try to win them over & make them go against your spouse. That's not win-lose, in fact, it is definitely a lose-lose!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 4 - Appreciate every single deed and help you received from your children. Thank them, praise them - loud and clear for everybody to hear. Put on your best smile while thanking them. You have just made up their day

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 5 - Practice what you preach. But don't preach every time you talk to the children. It might sound like a good sermon to you, but to them, it is simply a nag! Don't ever begin your sentence with ` When I was your age,..'. If you do, just watch their eyes rolling up & their ears turning deaf.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 6 - Provide spiritual guide to your children - they need the framework & structure. Never neglect spirituality in everything you do. Pray together as much as you could. Read the Quran and reflect on its meaning. Convince them, spiritual health is as important (if not more) as physical, mental & emotional health.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 7 - Apologize for your mistakes and shortcomings, tho' sorry is the hardest word, esp. for parents. We can be wrong too. The children need to be reminded that they're being raised by HUMAN BEINGS, not angels. Try hard not to repeat the mistakes. This might be the most difficult tip to practise!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 8 - Allow some space for your adolescents to make decisions and guide them from there. Trust them. Who else will if not you, the parent who raised them up! Don't doubt your parenting. Avoid suffocating them with your over-protectiveness. Let them learn from their mistakes.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no 9 - Introduce your children to your friends/colleagues. Exhibit how much you appreciate them & proud to be associated with them. Only then you could expect your kids to introduced their friends to you!


SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 10 - Learn about your children's love languages. Each has a different, dominant type, tho' they might come from the same womb. Manage the diversity. Adapt the best parenting method for each of them. Get feedback - that's the only way to improve.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 11 - Thank Allah everyday for selecting you, of all the parents in the world, to be THE parent to these beautiful children. Feel honoured by the privileges of being a parent. Enjoy your parenthood - despite the hardship, pain, worries and sleepless nights (not mentioning the big bucks). Cherish your role - show how much you love being a parent!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 12 - Treasure your own parents, and let the children realize how much you love them. Visit their graves (if they are no longer alive) & tell the children amazing stories about their deceased grandparents. If they're still alive, allow the children to spend their holidays together. Allow grandparents to occupy a special place in the children's hearts & lives.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 13 - Involve the children in making plans for the family - renovating the house, buying a new car, selecting gifts etc. Best time to teach them about family value & traditions. Let them suggest, however indicate who's the boss. Be fair, sporting and reasonable - this is when the children learn the rules of the game.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 14 - Instill love for books & knowledge into your children's lives. Hang around in bookshops & never miss the annual book fair. Being digital natives, introduce them to e-books, digital readers & tablets. Read together as a family. You're enriching them with a legacy.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 15 - Be fair in showing off your affection to each of your children. Deal with sibling rivalry - do not just ignore it. Make time to understand the dynamics, address the dissatisfaction, attend to each complaint. Put yourself in their shoes - they always see things differently!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 16 - Learn to say NO to your children, esp. on matters of principles. Do not compromise your values to accommodate their demands. Provide guidance, framework & structure. They need those to lead a successful & meaningful future.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 17 - Avoid calling your children `problematic' - esp when you can't handle them. Let's rephrase - they are children with `difficulties' - varying degrees, of course. Some quite trivial, some really massive! They need your help & assistance. Do not give up or abandon them now!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 18 - Support each other in your parenting process. Display solidarity, restrain from open contradiction on parenting styles. Kids tend to be manipulative if they know you both have disagreement. Single parents, engage others (family, close friends) to support you. You shouldn't shoulder these duties alone!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 19 - Instill sense of belonging among your children. Train the young ones to respect the elder siblings, vice versa. Keep them closely knitted.Treat them equally, avoid favoritism. Express unconditional love. Everyone matters & has a special, dedicated place in everybody's heart.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 20 - Befriend your adolescent kids - if possible be their best friend . Avoid being their worst enemy. No doubt parenting adolescents can be most challenging, but they're also facing the most difficult phase of their lives. Friends are not judgmental, loyal and keep secrets well, while enemies despise & couldn't stand one another.Which one is you?

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 21 - Respond appropriately when others complained about your children's misbehavior/misconduct. Do not take it personally. Do not stage war or threaten to take legal action against the complainant before investigating thoroughly. It takes the whole world (not just a village) to raise a child these days.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 22 - Make time to read the Quran together with your children, especially the adolescents. Ponder on the translation. Help each other to memorize some parts of the Quran. Each child should have his/her own Quran (+ translation) hardcopy, besides a mobile phone @ laptop!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 23 - Raise your boys to be caring, thoughtful and responsible men. Never humiliate them in front of others, esp the siblings. Be a good listener and mind-reader. Listen to his silence. Read his body languages. Your teenage boy is sending out a message : SOS, help me survive this rapids of adolescence! Anybody listening out there?

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 24 - Engage in intellectual discussion with your spouse - on issues of environment, politics, socio-economics. Include the children in the discourse, get their opinions. Avoid gossiping about the neighbours/artists/politicians​. Stop quarelling over petty matters. Enlighten your home with rays of wisdom and virtues.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 25 - Play with your toddlers ( below five years) - that was what Saidina Ali ra proposed. Dads, carry them over your shoulders - give them the chance to see the world from where you stand. Rasulullah SAW did that to his grandsons. The child psychologists agreed that is the best way to carry your toddler!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 26 - Pay attention to your adolescent girl. She really wanna know whether she inherits your beauty, Mum! She desperately needs to know whether you think she's pretty and presentable, Dad! Assure her that in your eyes - she is the most beautiful and charming. She needs that affirmation to face the world of fake beauty outside!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 27 - Discipline your children (esp those between 7-12 years of age) with love. Sound familiar,eh? How can that be possible? If you really love them, train your children with discipline, self-restraint and strong will. Instill consistency and high standard of self-management. Unfortunately, it all has to start with you first!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 28 - Watch your children sleeping. See how innocent and peaceful they are! Thank Allah for trusting you to look after His beautiful, tender creatures. Promise Allah that you will seriously take good care of them. Keep to your promise - never ever forget that!


SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 29 - Listen to your children. I really mean it. LISTEN to their stories, laugh at their jokes and answer their questions. Give your undivided attention if they need you to listen to their worries, complaints etc. Look into their eyes. Once they're assured that you care enough for them, they are ready to face ANY challenges out there!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 30 - Groom your children with good manners - train them to say`Please', `Thank you', `Excuse me' etc. Teach them the right body language, facial expression and voice intonation that goes along with those pleasant words. Explain what rudeness means, make them aware of social norms & cultural values surrounding them.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 31 - Learn to manage and handle diversity efficiently - your children are different eventho' they might be coming out from the same womb. Learn their likes & dislikes, strengths & shortcomings. Remember what John Gray wrote about ` Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, Children are from Heaven, Living together on Earth!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 32 - Make effort to reach home before the children go to bed. Spend time to listen to what they did at school today, look at their drawings & masterpiece. Do not ever forget to wear your smiles. Tell how glad you are to be safely home with them. Remember, the kids spell l.o.v.e with T.I.M.E!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 33 - Bring your children to your office sometimes (of course, only if your employer permits). Let them see where you sit, rest, pray & eat in the office and what decorates your room/table/cubicle. Introduce them to your colleagues. Explain in simple terms what exactly your role & contribution in the organization. Show them the organizational chart. This is another important part of your life that they need to know & share. This is where your paycheck comes from. Remind them that you don't simply pluck money from the trees.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 34 - Teach your kids about principles of life such as honesty is the best policy, respecting others, be thankful & grateful to those who have helped etc. Principles remain to be the virtues of life. Train your children to keep to their promises, to be truthful and to accomplish what is expected from them. Lead a principle-centered life every day.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 35 - Be consistent in disciplining your children. Be confident with your ability to do so. Explain why such rules & regulations are necessary. Do not easily succumb to their `manipulations' & `emotional blackmail'. Keep reminding yourself, the children need structure & framework, esp between age 7 to 13. Do not reserve it to later years of adolescence. It will be too late by then!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 36 - Pluck some courage to ask your teenage children this question : ` Are you proud of me being your parent?' If you are fortunate enough to receive an answer, ask the next question : ` Exactly what is the main reason that made you proud/not proud of me?' Listen to the answers, listen real hard. We definitely need appraisal on our performance & competence as parents too!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 37 - Make sure you are ten steps ahead of your children in everything. Equip yourself with the latest update on their favourite websites, music, sports, games, movies, actors & singers. Conduct your own research. Learn about the latest gadget in town. The best way to be updated is by showing some interest & asking the kids themselves. Who knows, they might finally accept your to be their FB friend and stop rejecting each time your sent your request!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 38 - Train your children to comply to the Quranic teachings. Teach them about verse 23 & 24, Surah Al-Isra' (Chapter 17) before it's too late. Allah wants them to be respectful & kind in their conducts towards you. They must not raise their voice while talking to you or dismiss you by simply saying ; Ahh! They must choose the best words in conversations with you. They must never forget to pray for you. As liberal & friendly as you are as a parent, stick to this principle!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 39 - Do not allow your love for the children blind you. Your deep love must be translated to a genuine concern to shape the kids into caring & responsible individuals for the future. Be wise enough to manoeuvre your parenting skills - knowing when to let go & restrain. Be kind and considerate & make sure you are always in control, since you're the boss!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 40 - Show interest in your child's close friends. Invite them to your house for sleepovers. Get to know their parents too. You can discover a bit more about your child by the friends that he/she chooses. Have a heart-to-heart discussion with your child if you disapprove any of his/her friends. Keep checking on their activities. Let your child know that you really care!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 41 - Love your children unconditionally. Do not practise favouritism. Be generous with compliments & rewards. At the same time, be consistent and persistent in instilling values. Be fair and just in your punishments. Remind them time and again, how much you need them to cooperate. At the end, you never expect compensation for your sweats & tears in raising up those beautiful children!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 42 - Pray to Allah for assistance and strength in carrying out your duties as parents. If you're adopting a child into your family, pray that he/she will add more blessings and colours to your everyday life. Ask Allah SWT to open your heart so that you can accommodate as many children in it - not only meant for your own flesh & blood.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 43 - Avoid humiliating and degrading your child in front of others, esp. his/her own siblings & friends. Your child would not be able to withstand the pain & bitterness of constant embarrassment. He/She is going to need lot of help with his/her self-confidence & acceptance. There must be a better humane way to boost up or motivate your child.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 44 - Acknowledge the A's in your child's report card before focusing on the B's, C's, D's & E's. Appreciate his/her effort. If you feel that he/she was not trying hard enough, it's time for a one-on-one / heart-to-heart talk. Work out some plan for the holiday. But make sure, do not overburden them. Give them space to learn according to their own paces.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 45 - Always be there for your children. Be the strong pillar for them to lean on to. Lend them your shoulder for them to cry on. Put your arms around them to provide the warmth they desperately need in this cold, icy competitive world. Do not abandon or ignore them now- physically, emotionally & spiritually. Never ever give up on them!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 46 - Win your children's hearts by learning the skills on how to make them feel special. Your kids do not need much actually. Learn their love languages & express your love through those means. Be generous with your rewards. However be smart enough to decide on the right achievement, time, place and situation before rewarding the best acknowledgement to that particular child. Experience counts here!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 47 - Be well reminded that you do not OWN your children. They do not belonged to you, even though you might be the one contributing the sperm/ovum and allowing them grow in your uterus! They're Allah's special packages of love, care, misery, discomfort, anxiety, joy and sorrow. Allah sent them to groom you to be a better person. Handle them with a lot of care, trust and honour!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 48 - Keep improving yourself to be a better parent. We're still learning each day. Let your children see how committed you are in bringing them up to be good individuals. Make them realize that you will never give up and will go on trying. Don't forget to ask them to pray for Allah's guidance on you. We definitely need all the help we could get here!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 49 - Prepare your children to face this life without your presence. Remind them that death is inevitable. It's either they have to see you departing from this world, or it is you who have to face their deaths, which ever comes first! Besides your life saving & insurance, leave behind a legacy for the children to emulate, cherish and treasure.Pray hard for Allah's guidance to your children, especially when you're no longer around.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 50 - Raise your children with the best methods you know how. Stay committed to your parenting responsibilities. Keep on learning new parenting techniques suitable for the new generations of parents & children. Bear the heartaches and deep cuts, lost opportunities and time constraints. When you witness how well your children adapt and survive their life challenges, do not ever forget to thank Allah SWT! Simply give your best to this very rewarding job called PARENTING!

Loves,
Dr. Har

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DR HAR'S TOPICS OF INTEREST

Here are the list of topics that I have delivered so far in my speaking engagements in Malaysia @ abroad.

1. MEDICAL EDUCATION
1.1 Becoming a Five-Star Doctor (motivational)
1.2 Training, Teaching & Assessing Medical Professionalism
1.3 Managing Diversity
1.4 Clinical Decision Making
1.5 Medical Ethics - from Womb to Tomb
1.6 Communication & Interpersonal Skills for Healthcare Providers

2. WOMEN HEALTH & SEXUAL REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH
2.1 Do you have what it takes to be an OB-GYN?
2.2 Motherhood at the crossroad : Challenges Ahead ( maternal health)
2.3 Achieveing MDG4 & 5 through promotion of maternal & neonatal health
2.4 Family Planning & Contraception : Social & Religious perspectives
2.5 Adolescent sexual & reproductive health
2.6 Sexuality Education

3. WOMEN & FAMILY
3.1 Women in the eyes of God : where do they stand?
3.2 Women empowerment in Islam
3.3 Gender relationship : husband-wife
3.4 Parenting
3.5 Women self-esteem & self-confidence
3.6 Leadership & decision making

4. SKILLS & CAPACITY BUILDING
4.1 Handling small group sessions (usrah/ small study circle)
4.2 Public speaking
4.3 Emotional intelligence
4.4 Life balance
4.5 Facilitation skills

PS : Photo Courtesy from Iqra' Media UTM

Loves,
Dr. Har

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Kem Remaja S.U.P.E.R

Kem Remaja S.U.P.E.R adalah program khas untuk para remaja belia yang berumur 13 hingga 17 tahun sahaja. Program ini akan membentuk karakter Remaja SUPER berdasarkan model S.U.P.E.R yang belandaskan Al-Quran dan Sunnah. Daftar anak remaja supaya mereka menjadi SUPER!


Remaja SUPER akan melalui pelbagai aktiviti INDOOR dan OUTDOOR yang menarik dan mencabar! Namun yang demikian, peserta akan diberikan formula S.U.P.E.R sebelum menjalani aktiviti ini....

Aktiviti INDOOR:
· SUPER Sharing; Perkongsian meningkatkan motivasi dan jati diri mereka dengan tajuk yang berasaskan kepada model SUPER
· SUPER Ice Breaking; Baiki akhlak dan cara berkomunikasi dengan manusia
· SUPER Team Building; Bina Pasukan SUPER
· SUPER Renungan Remaja & Al-Quran; Surah Al Kahfi
· Solat SUPER; baiki asas gerakan dan bacaan dalam solat serta solat di dalam hutan
· SUPER Muhasabah; Membangkitkan kesedaran berTuhan dan peranan sebagai seorang anak, murid dan sahabat.

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Untuk mendapatkan keterangan lebih lanjut, kunjungi blog
Kem Remaja S.U.P.E.R

atau hubungi
019 3651408
019 3651421

atau emailkan pertanyaan alamat
rsakinah@gmail.com

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Wacana Transformasi Ummah - Isu Seksualiti

Objektif Wacana:
1. medan perbincangan mengenai realiti amalan gejala homoseksualiti di Msia
2. menjelaskan aspek homoseksualiti/orientasi seksual dari perspektif psiokososial & Islam
3. mencadangkan pendekatan komprehensif menangani isu LGBTIQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transexual, Intersexual and Queer).

Semua Dijemput Hadir!

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Visiting Prof John Gilbert

Salam

I hosted a farewell lunch yesterday at my residence in Alam Damai for our Adjunct Professor Dr John Gilbert from Univ of British Columbia, Vancouver, Canada. Prof Gilbert is the `Father of Inter-professional Education (IPE) for collaborative practice' - a consultant in speech therapy with vast experience in initiating collaborative work among doctors, nurses, pharmacists, therapists, social workers etc! Being a very friendly person, he blended very well and we have no problem including him as a family member of Dept of Medical Education, UKM! As he said - Malaysia is now his second home! We are happy to have you with us, John! InsyaAllah,we shall tap your wisdom & experience to put Medic UKM in the map of IPE!

Loves,
Dr. Har

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Selamat Menyambut Eidul Adha 1432H

Salam

Semoga kita semua mampu meningkatkan pengorbanan demi Ad Deenul Haq yg mendambakan setiap pejuangnya memikul amanah perjuangan setiap masa, ketika dan di setiap tempat.

Loves,
Dr. Har

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KENYATAAN MEDIA IKRAM: Penganjuran Seksualiti Merdeka Menongkah Prinsip Islam Dan Fitrah Kemanusiaan

Kenyataan Media
Pertubuhan IKRAM Malaysia
4 November 2011
Pertubuhan Ikram Malaysia (IKRAM) menganggap penganjuran Program Seksualiti Merdeka adalah bertentangan dengan prinsip-prinsip akhlak dalam Islam dan fitrah kemanusiaan sejagat.

Program Seksualiti Merdeka bertujuan memperjuangkan kesamarataan dalam pengamalan seks dan menentang diskriminasi ke atas golongan-golongan LGBTIQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transexual, Intersexual and Queer).

IKRAM ingin mengingatkan bahawa usaha untuk menyebarkan amalan-amalan seks yang bertentangan dengan fitrah kemanusiaan ini akan hanya membawa kepada kemusnahan individu, masyarakat dan negara.

Allah swt telah mengingatkan umat manusia untuk menjauhi amalan seks yang melampaui batas ini melalui firmanNya dalam Surah Al-A’raaf, ayat 80 – 81 yang bermaksud:

"Dan (Kami mengutus) Nabi Lut, ketika dia berkata kepada kaumnya, Mengapa kamu melakukan perbuatan keji, yang belum pernah dilakukan oleh seorang pun sebelum kamu (di dunia ini). Sungguh, kamu telah melempiaskan syahwatmu kepada sesama lelaki bukan kepada perempuan. Kamu benar-benar kaum yang melampaui batas.’"

Mereka yang terlibat dengan amalan seks yang bertentangan dengan fitrah kemanusiaan ini secara umumnya terbahagi kepada dua golongan:

1. Golongan yang berhadapan dengan masalah kecelaruan identiti gender

2. Golongan yang jelas identiti gendernya tetapi celaru dalam orientasi seksualnya dan sengaja memilih pasangan sejenis.

IKRAM insaf dan maklum tentang kewujudan segelintir kecil golongan manusia yang diciptakan Allah swt yang mempunyai permasalahan kecelaruan identiti gender kerana faktor biologikal, penderaan-penderaan fizikal, seksual, psikologi, emosi dan mental atau faktor-faktor persekitaran yang lain. Namun, Islam telah menyediakan garis panduan yang seimbang dan sejahtera untuk mengurus dan mengatasi kecelaruan ini.

Bagi golongan kedua, yang berhadapan dengan masalah kecelaruan orientasi seksual, Islam menegaskan bahawa golongan ini hendaklah kembali kepada fitrah kemanusiaan untuk kesejahteraan diri, keluarga dan masyarakat. IKRAM menolak sebarang usaha untuk menyebar amalan seksual yang bertentangan dengan syariah Islam dan fitrah kemanusiaan. IKRAM juga menolak kehendak sebilangan golongan yang mempunyai kecelaruan identiti untuk diberikan hak melakukan hubungan seks songsang seperti hubungan homoseksualiti dan biseksualiti.

Hubungan jenis ini membuka ruang kepada hubungan seks rambang, tiada pertanggungjawaban, penyebaran nilai-nilai yang tidak bersopan, pornografi, penyembahan seks serta penyebaran pelbagai jenis penyakit kelamin. Kajian saintifik yang dilakukan oleh banyak pihak di barat telah memberi amaran bahawa hubungan homoseksualiti dan biseksualiti boleh menghancurkan sesebuah masyarakat dan negara.

Golongan LGBTIQ sebenarnya merupakan satu kelompok manusia yang memerlukan bantuan dan pertolongan. Usaha hendaklah dilakukan oleh mereka yang pakar untuk mendampingi golongan LGBTIQ dan membimbing mereka agar mereka dapat kembali menjalani kehidupan biasa dan tidak tersisih dari masyarakat.

Sehubungan itu IKRAM mendesak agar:

1. Usaha untuk menyebarkan amalan-amalan seks songsang dan bebas ini dihentikan serta merta.

2. Kementerian Pembangunan Wanita dan Keluarga, Kementerian Kesihatan, Jabatan Kemajuan Islam Malaysia (JAKIM), Jabatan-jabatan Agama Negeri dan NGO-NGO Islam dan bukan Islam hendaklah berusaha dengan lebih bersungguh-sungguh bagi membantu golongan yang mengalami kecelaruan seksual ini.

3. Masyarakat umum hendaklah sedaya upaya membantu mereka yang ingin kembali kepada fitrah asal kemanusiaan.

IKRAM juga ingin menyatakan kesediaan untuk bekerjasama dengan mana-mana pihak bagi membantu golongan LGBTIQ ini dengan menawarkan kepakaran yang wujud dalam Pusat Sokongan Wanita dan Keluarga IKRAM (PAKSI – IKRAM).

IKRAM bersedia berdialog dengan pihak penganjur Seksualiti Merdeka bagi mencari jalan terbaik ke arah membangunkan negara yang maju dan sejahtera. Semoga Allah swt merahmati masyarakat dan negara kita yang tercinta.



Prof Madya Dr Harlina Halizah Hj Siraj

Pengerusi Jawatankuasa Pembangunan Sosial

Pertubuhan Ikram Malaysia (IKRAM)

sumber asal: IKRAM: Penganjuran Seksualiti Merdeka Menongkah Prinsip Islam Dan Fitrah Kemanusiaan

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Congratulation, seven new MDs UKM Oct 2011

Salam

Congratulations, mabrook to Dr Ehsan, Dr Rosatikah, Dr Isma, Dr Hazreen, Dr Zaid, Dr Ah Weng & Dr Fairul.You all have been terrific, bouncing back and coming out stronger. Best of luck for your future undertaking.

PS - Uploading last year's photo of MD UKM Oct 2010 as well! Ooops, blue tudung last year as well as yesterday...but be rest assured, it was a different tudung with similar hue of blue, though ;-))

Loves,
Prof. Har

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TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 1 - 40

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 1 - Ikhlaskan niatmu menjadi teman hidup pasanganmu. Ketetapan Allah memilih yang seorang ini buatmu, dari berjuta lelaki di dunia. Pasti ada hikmah yg tersirat dan tersurat. Ayuh, kita selongkar rahsia Allah itu dalam hidup seharian bersama, pasti di situ kau kan temui bahagia....

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 2 - Pertahankan ikatan pernikahan yang dibuat atas nama Allah yg Maha Agung. Hanya dgn nama-Nyalah, apa yang asalnya haram antara engkau & sidia, menjadi halal dan dibolehkan. Genggam erat ukhuwwah yg terjalin - penuh pasrah dan tawakkal.

TALIAN HAYAT UNTUK PARA ISTERI : Nota 3 - Pandu arah kehidupan bersama ini semata2 utk mencari redha Allah. Saling bantu membantu dalam usaha kebaikan dan takwa. Kumpulkan sebyk mungkin bekalan. Moga tika kita terpaksa berlutut di depan Allah sendiri-sendiri, amal bakti yg kita kutip bersama mampu meraih belas ihsan Allah buat kita sekeluarga.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 4 - Fahamilah erti sebenar taat kepada suami yang disarankan agama. Ketaatan itu bukannya menurut semua perintah suami tanpa usul periksa. Demi hubungan yg harmoni & sejahtera, elok benar kalau siisteri yang mengalah / `surrendered',di saat kita mampu menunjuk lagak menyombongkan diri terhadap suami. Merendah diri bukan minta dipijak-pijak! Sekadar menunjuk akhlaq terpuji, agar tenang hati suami. Rugikah kita para isteri kalau kita taat secara rela diri?

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 5 - Selitkan doa setiap masa, moga Allah SWT mencampakkan hidayah-Nya ke dalam hati suami kita. Moga lebih cinta dia kepada iman, takwa dan ihsan. Moga dia terus gigih mencontohi suami teragung, Muhammad SAW. Mudah-mudahan jua, bersama kita meniti kehidupan dalam redha dan kasih sayang Allah setiap masa dan ketika!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 6 - Hargailah setiap usaha, kasih sayang, saraan hidup dan pemberian suamimu, insan kerdil yg begitu gigih cuba melaksanakan amanah berat di bahunya. Hentikan cemuhan, kritikan, sindiran dan perli dlm setiap patah ayat yg ditujukan utknya. Gantikan dgn kata semangat dan keyakinan yg mampu mendorongnya menjadi suami yg lebih menyerlah, InsyaAllah.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 7 - Didiklah hati agar menyayangi wanita yang melahirkan suamimu, kenanglah jasanya mendidik anak lelakinya menjadi pasangan yang mengasihimu kini. Jangan sekali jadi musuh @ saingannya, sekalipun itu mungkin tanggapan ibu mertua terhadapmu. Yakinkan hatinya, bahawa engkau bukanlah perampas kasih anaknya. Engkau sebenarnya permata yang menyinari hidup suami dan juga penyeri hidupnya, jika dia sudi memberi peluang tersebut kepadamu!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 8 - Belajarlah untuk ikhlas dalam memberikan kasih sayang dan cinta utk suamimu. Seringkali ada sahaja niat dan sebab musabab lain semasa kita melafazkan ikrar kasih. Jika benar ikhlas, engkau takkan mudah kecewa jika sesekali seperti cintamu tidak berbalas, penat lelahmu tidak dihargai. Keikhlasanmu kan menjadi daya penarik yg kuat mengikat hati suamimu kepadamu!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 9 - Serlahkan bakat dan potensimu, gunakan kecerdasan dan keupayaanmu untuk memberi manfaat kepada orang lain. Prihatinlah kepada keperitan hidup masyarakat di luar sana, bantulah semampu boleh. Jadilah manusia yang banyak jasanya - pasti suami dan anak-anakmu bangga beristeri dan beribukan seorang yang istimewa seperti kamu!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 10 - Bijaklah mengurus masa, modal anugerah Allah kepada kita semua. Senaraikan keutamaanmu dan tumpukan usaha mendahulukan mana yang sepatutnya dibereskan dahulu. Dapatkan bantuan suami dan anak2 untuk menyelesaikan tugasan. Jangan bebankan dirimu cuba menjadi `wanita luarbiasa' - suamimu cuma inginkan seorang isteri solehah yg bijaksana!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 11 - Beranikan dirimu untuk mempercayai kejujuran suamimu dalam melayari bahtera ini bersama. Sesungguhnya, kepercayaanmu ibarat titisan air yg diperlukan oleh rimbun untuk kekal menghijau. Tanpanya, ia akan layu kekuningan. Namun, suamimu perlu jua diperingatkan - agar cermat menjaga kepercayaan itu ibarat kaca yg mudah retak & calar. Sekali tercalar, mungkin selamanya terluka...

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 12 - Imbangilah antara kebergantunganmu kepada suami dgn keupayaanmu untuk berdiri di atas kaki sendiri. Pasrahmu yang total hanyalah kepada yg Maha Agung. Saling bergantung, perlu memerlukan adalah perencah kenikmatan hidup bersama. Jikalau masih sendiri-sendiri, apalah erti hidup sebumbung. Sementara dia masih ada di sisi, kita serahkan kemudi bahtera di tangan suami. Namun jika dia harus pergi, kita akan mampu memikul amanah yg ada, InsyaAllah!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 13 - Dapatkan maklumbalas sejujurnya dari suamimu mengenai akhlak dan tingkahlakumu. Biarkan dia berkata-kata tanpa sebarang gangguan, sekalipun hatimu melonjak-lonjak mahu bersuara membela diri. Mohonlah giliranmu pula memberikannya maklumbalasmu. Pilihlah perkataan terbaik dalam menyusun buah tuturmu. Istiqamah dalam muhasabah, kunci tautan dua hati yg ikhlas mencintai kerana Allah SWT

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 14 - Ubati segera hatimu yang terluka mendengar pengakuan suamimu : cintanya sudah beralih kepada wanita lain. Jgn pantas menyalahkan dirimu, apatah lagi mengalah dan berundur. Jgn pula biarkan cemburu merasuk diri, mengocak ketenangan & membakar amarahmu. Tenanglah dahulu, santuni emosimu yg terhiris pilu. Biarkan airmatamu mengalir buat seketika. Namun yakinlah, sesungguhnya engkau masih belum kehilangan segala-galanya.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 15 -Pilihlah tindakan yang bijak dalam menangani kemelut suamimu mahu atau sudah berkahwin lain. Berikannya peluang menjelaskan keadaan. Dapatkan segera bantuan org tengah yg adil & amanah. Berpandulah kepada akal, melebihi emosimu di saat ini. Jgn biarkan dirimu seratus peratus dipersalahkan,kelemahanmu dikatakan punca suami terpaksa mencari yang lain. Ingatlah, suamimu yang sepenuhnya bertanggungjawab atas pilihan dan tindakannya.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 16 - Hindarkan nada keras, kasar dan lantang apabila berbicara dengan suamimu. Banyakkan mendengar dari bersuara, kerana sesungguhnya Allah melengkapkan manusia dengan sepasang telinga dan hanya satu mulut sahaja. Janganlah ambil kesempatan dari sifat pendiam dan mengalah suamimu. Berikan rasa hormat dan penghargaan yang sebaik-baiknya. Percayalah, anak-anak sedang memerhatikan kemahiran berkomunikasi kalian berdua!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 17 - Serahkan anak-anakmu untuk dijaga sepenuhnya oleh ayah mereka (suamimu) sekali sekala. Yakinlah, mereka akan kelihatan gembira, selamat dan masih bernyawa bila engkau kembali. Hampir pasti, cara suamimu amat berbeza dengan gaya rutin kebiasaanmu. Apalah salahnya membiarkan suamimu mempraktikkan kemahiran kebapaannya. Sebaik manapun engkau sebagai ibu, takkan dapat menjadi seorang bapa terbaik untuk anak-anakmu.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 18 - Hentikan segala kritikan, komen, sungutan dan rungutan terhadap kelemahan dan kekurangan suamimu. Sifat bongkaklah yang menjerumuskan syaitan ke lembah kehinaan dan laknat Allah. Dengan sifat itu jualah syaitan akan merosakkan hubungan perkahwinanmu. Gunakan kaedah penuh hikmah dan merendah diri dalam menegur suamimu. Berikannya peluang dan masa untuk memperbetulkan kesilapan serta ketidakcekapannya selama ini.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 19 - Hiasi kediamanmu penuh kesederhanaan, sekalipun engkau mampu menyalutinya dengan kemewahan. Nyamankan hawa segenap ruangan rumahmu dengan alunan tadarus Al-Quran. Hangatkan kedinginan dengan kemesraan ziarah ukhuwwah tetamu yang datang. Hijaukan halaman dengan pepohon yang segar mengiringi zikirmu. Jadikan ketenangan tema utama yang dikongsi bersama dengan semua yang sudi bertandang.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 20 - Layanlah ahli keluarga suamimu sebagaimana engkau mahu dia melayani keluargamu. Janganlah tunjukkan kebencian dan rasa kurang senang semasa bersama ipar-duaimu. Hindarkan sebarang pertembungan yang memaksa suamimu memilih antara engkau dan keluarganya. Berikanlah hadiah, sambutlah kedatangan mereka ke rumahmu dengan ramah tamah dan senyuman keikhlasan - nescaya keberkatan rezeki melimpah ruah dalam kehidupan.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 21 - Janganlah sesekali putus asa dari rahmat & kasih sayang Allah. Jika suamimu kini bukanlah seorang soleh yg taat pada perintah Tuhannya - sungguh amat besar ujian Allah buatmu. Mohonlah satu dari dua kekuatan - agar kau kuat menghadapi cabaran ini & cukup kuat utk membebaskan diri jika itu pilihan yg terbaik ataupun suamimu diberi kekuatan oleh Allah utk bertaubat nasuha, berubah dan beristiqamah menjadi insan yg jauh lebih baik!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 22 - Lindungi dirimu dan anak-anakmu dari didera secara fizikal, emosional dan seksual oleh suamimu. Allah telah memerintahkan suamimu agar sentiasa berlaku maaruf (baik) terhadapmu. Sebesar manapun silapmu, suamimu tidak berhak menghinamu dengan kekerasan, kekasaran dan keganasan. Jgn malu memohon bantuan keluarga, rakan dan taulan. Sesungguhnya engkau berhak mendapatkan pembelaan dan perlindungan!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 23 - Semaikanlah kecintaan terhadap ilmu pengetahuan, sebaik-baik penyuluh kehidupan dan neraca pertimbangan. Kutiplah mutiara kebijaksanaan di mana jua engkau menemuinya. Jadilah manusia berilmu dan bermaklumat. Buatlah keputusan berasaskan ilmu, hadapi segala cabaran dengan senjata ilmu, pelihara hakmu melalui keteguhan ilmu dan pertahankan hujahmu dengan kubu ilmu.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 24 - Perbaiki mutu komunikasi antara engkau dan suami. Semoga tiada yg terselindung, hingga yang satu pihak lagi hanya bersangka-sangka dan berteka-teki. Sekiranya suamimu makin kasar tingkahnya, mungkin ada terselit kekecewaan di hatinya - hingga keganasan jadi pilihan. Jangan terus-menerus menjadi mangsa penderaan. Hentikan segala kemelut rumahtangga!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 25 - Jangan jemu berbakti kepada keluargamu. Semuanya InsyaAllah, dikira ibadah oleh Allah SWT. Memang kadangkala seperti tiada siapa yg peduli apatah lagi menghargai penat lelah dan payah jerihmu. Bukankah manusia sememangnya pelupa.Namun, kita punya Allah SWT yg tidak pernah terleka, terlalai atau tertidur dari memerhatikan kita!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 26 - Perbanyakkan sedekah kepada ahli keluargamu. Bagi isteri bekerjaya, peruntukkan sebahagian gajimu utk infaq dan perbelanjaan keluarga. Namun, izinkanlah suamimu menyara dirimu, semampunya. Jgn ambil alih tgjwbnya mencari rezeki yg halal buatmu dan keluarga. Mudah2an kehidupanmu sentiasa dalam kecukupan yg barakah....

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 27 - Luahkan keinginanmu untuk dihargai dan disayangi. Khusus bagi yg tidak bekerjaya di luar rumah, keperdulian suami dan anak2 buatmu adalah penyegar tubuh dan emosi yg kepenatan. Jangan terus menjeruk perasaan. Amat wajar untuk engkau nyatakan apa yg terbuku secara terus dan terang. Sesungguhnya, engkau memang berhak disayangi dan dihargai.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 28 - Pastikan solatmu kerap diimami oleh suamimu. Jgn lepaskan peluang utk mengaminkan setiap titipan doanya. Jika suamimu seorang yg tersangkut hatinya di masjid/surau - sesekali, mohonlah hakmu untuk dipimpin dalam solatmu. Namun jika suamimu seorg yg sengaja engkar dan berani meninggalkan solatnya - jgnlah jemu memperingatkan tugas utamanya sbg abdi Allah yg Maha Besar kekuasaan-Nya!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 29 - Jangan berdendam terhdp perbuatan silap suamimu yg silam. Cubalah memaafkan dan hilangkan amarah di dada. Engkau mungkin sukar utk melupakan, namun engkau ada pilihan sama ada mahu memaafkan atau sebaliknya. Jgn biarkan api membakar sekam, nanti yg tinggal hanyalah abu dan arang.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 30 - Carilah seorang sahabat setia yg boleh berkongsi kesedihanmu, namun cukup amanah utk menjaga segala keaibanmu. InsyaAllah, engkau tidak akan sukar mencari sahabat sebegitu, jika engkau sendiri sentiasa menjalankan tgjwb seorang sahabat sejati kpd org lain. Jgn cuba dipendam-pendam, disorok dan dijeruk perasaan yg luka....bimbang kelak tak tertanggung lagi.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 31 - Ingatlah bhw engkau umpama pakaian (libasa) bagi suamimu dan dia pula pakaian bagimu ( Al-Quran-AlBaqarah : 187). Bertindaklah yang molek agar suami boleh berbangga dengan setiap lakumu. Peringatkan jua suamimu agar dia memperelokkan setiap tingkahnya, kerana engkau jua ingin tumpang bangga dengannya.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 32 - Pertingkatkan komitmen keluargamu utk mempraktikkan cara hidup Islam yg syumul. Peliharalah solat, jgn sekali abaikan perintah Allah. Didik anak2mu utk mematuhi suruhan Allah. Moga2 keluargamu terbimbing menjadi keluarga sakinah.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI - Nota 33 : Ikhlaskan setiap detik yg telah, sedang dan akan dihabiskan bersama suamimu. Ganjaran segala pengorbanan & susah payahmu bukannya datang dari suamimu, melainkan hanyalah daripada Allah SWT semata-mata.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI - Nota 34 : Sentiasalah saling nasihat-menasihati. Bagi sebahagian isteri, menasihati suami mungkin sesuatu tugas yg hampir mustahil. Namun, kita tidak boleh berhenti berusaha, berikhtiar dan mencuba. Mulakan dgn meminta nasihat dari suamimu terlebih dahulu. Timbang-tara segala nasihatnya. Perbaiki mana yg kurang, tampung mana yg bocor. InsyaAllah, tak lama lagi, suamimu akan meminta dinasihati pula, InsyaAllah!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 35 : Peringatkanlah suamimu akan pesanan ayat ke6 Surah At-Tahrim - di mana dia diperintahkan Allah untuk memelihara dirinya dan dirimu serta anak2 dari azab api neraka! Besar sungguh tanggungjawab yg dipikulnya! Engkau dan anak2 tidak akan menanggung dosanya, namun kemungkaranmu dan anak2 akan ditanggungkan ke atas bahunya! Cukuplah pesanan itu menjadi peringatan!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 36 - Mulakan nasihat buat suamimu dengan niat tulus, mulus dan penuh keikhlasan. Buang jauh2 rasa megah, bangga diri dan lebih hebat, kerana perasaan itu nanti akan mempengaruhi pilihan ayat, gerak badan dan ekspresi muka semasa mula bertutur. Bijaklah mencari masa yg sesuai dan santai. Bersedia utk mendengar jawapan balas dan alasannya dgn tenang. Jika suasana menjadi tegang, berundurlah buat seketika - esok lusa, kita akan terus mencuba!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 37 - Peliharalah baik-baik hatimu dari dihinggapi penyakit mazmumah - takabbur dan bangga diri. Sesungguhnya, itulah racun senjata utama syaitan laknatullah merosakkan anak Adam. Sekiranya suami isteri dihinggapi perasaan ini, retak akhirnya membawa belah. Bila sahaja terasa diri lebih hebat dari suami, beristighfarlah & pohonlah perlindungan Allah. Jika engkau mampu mengatasinya, paling tidak, engkau hanya perlu berdepan dengan keegoan suamimu sahaja. Jangan jadi mangsa mudah syaitan yg menunggu2 peluang memporak-perandakan rumahtangga yg dibina!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 38 - Hiasilah wajahmu dengan senyuman manis diukir ikhlas dari hati, setiap kali engkau berhadapan dengan suamimu. Mengukir senyuman jauh lebih mudah dari mengerutkan dahimu atau membiarkan wajahmu masam mencuka. Kuntumkan senyuman sepanjang perbualan telefon bersama suamimu. Nescaya suamimu akan lebih mudah menghadiahkan senyumannya pula buatmu!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 39 - Keraplah menghantar suamimu di muka pintu, tika dia keluar bekerja (bagi sesiapa yang berkesempatan). Doakan kesejahteraannya, moga hari ini terlindung dia dari kejahatan dan penyelewengan. Moga terpelihara segala ibadah khususnya. Mudah-mudahan, petang nanti, kita akan dipertemukan lagi dalam suasana iman yang bertambah & kasih sayang yang melimpah ruah.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 40 - Jadilah teman karib suamimu - yang sudi berkongsi suka dan duka bersama. Fahamilah kebimbangan dan kerisauannya, memastikan diri dan ahli keluarganya terlindung dari api neraka sebagaimana diperintahkan Allah dalam Surah AtTahrim, ayat ke6. Jika jelas terbukti dia terlupa perintah tersebut, peringatkanlah. Semoga ketaqwaan terus menjadi bekalan.

Dr. Har

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Syarahan Perdana Prof Dr Nabishah Mohamad UKM

Salam
Alhamdulillah, tadi sempat menghadiri Syarahan Perdana Prof Dr Nabishah Mohamad, Ketua Jabatan Pendidikan Perubatan Fakulti Perubatan UKM. MasyaAllah, bila Prof Tan Sri VC bacakan ucapjasa Prof Nabishah, begitu banyak sumbangan dan jasanya. Moga Allah SWT memberikan sebaik-baik ganjaran kepada usaha beliau yg ikhlas dan begitu gigih. Prof Nabishah, jasamu kan sentiasa dikenang! Prof jadi ikon dan role model kepada kami semua!



Loves,
Dr. Har

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KONVO UKM ke 39 : Syabas anak2-ku !

Salam

Syukur ahamdulillah, Allah memberikan keizinan-Nya utk Prof Har menghadiri sidang pertama majlis Konvokesyen UKM ke 39 hari Sabtu yg lalu. Agak terkilan kerana tak dapat hadir Majlis Mesra Graduan Perubatan di KTSN ptg Jumaat tu, rindu terubat bila melihat seorang demi seorang graduan perubatan 2011 melangkah merentas pentas Dectar mengambil ijazah masing2. Tampak matang, segak, bergaya, anggun dan berkeyakinan - jauh sekali dgn gaya semasa bergelar pelajar dulu.Maaf tak sempat bergambar dgn ramai antara kalian. Tapi Prof Har yakin semuanya gembira pagi tu, bersama keluarga masing2.
I am dedicating a special thank for Dr Murnira Abidin, who actually came back to PPUKM that Sunday to see me after the PPIM Fiqh Perubatan Seminar. I was touched by the kind and thoughtful gesture. To see her face smiling was the best gift I had that day. I will treasure this photo that I took with her in a special place in my heart.

Loves,
Dr. Har

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DR. HARLINA'S SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS- Tips no. 21 - 30

(For tips no 1 - 20, kindly scroll down)

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 21 - Stop being a perfectionist, for one good reason - no human being can be perfect! Be kind to your self, please. Set an achievable target, strive to overcome challenges and acknowledge your own achievement, no matter how small. Wanting to excel will motivate you, aiming for perfection will only drain you out DRY!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 22 - Focus on your study. Do not allow distractions to interfere with your concentration. Apply deep learning strategy - focus on YOUR own pumping heart when you're studying CVS, on YOUR own thinking brain when you're reading about neurons & synapses! Studying is not supposed to be burdening, it should be liberating, enjoyable and empowering.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 23 - Fight your laziness with this reminder - nobody likes to consult a LAZY doctor, not even yourself! Being lazy is a waste of resources, a thief of your precious time and a betrayal to your potentials. Come on, grab the books, spend a lot of time in the wards/clinics and finish off your calls. Say goodbye to laziness TODAY!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 24 - Seek professional help ASAP once you detect symptoms of depression & anxiety within yourself. Lack of energy, loss of interest, insomnia, isolation and crying spells...to name a few. Help your friends with such symptoms - esp. if they're still in denial. Life as medical students can be very challenging & frightening, so monitor your progress closely!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 25 - Be exceptionally strong in your spiritual development. A doctor's soul needs constant enhancement and purification. It's your pure and sincere intention that serves as a shining beacon in the dark, showing you the way. Do not ever neglect your soul, or else you'll get easily de-motivated, demoralized, derailed and defeated!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 26 - Optimize your studying time to obtain as much medical knowledge
as possible. Take up all opportunities to sharpen your generic and medical skills. Equip yourself with appropriate manners and attitudes. Do not just aim for a borderline pass. How would you like consulting a doctor who only knows 5 out of 10 causes of acute abdominal pain?

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 27 - Take care of your love life, if you have decided you’re ready to commit for one. If it’s taking away too much of your time and energy, simply trying to make the other person happy – I guess you know where you’re heading to. Be wise in managing your priorities, first thing first! If things between you and him/her turn sour, do not mourn too long. Pick up the pieces and move on.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 28 - Return to your old schools if you have the opportunities to do so. Meet up your old teachers and motivate the juniors to follow your footsteps. Walk down those familiar corridors and bring back good memories, of how confident and enthusiastic you were feeling, once upon a time! Wonder where have all those feelings gone to? When did you exactly lose them? Work hard to regain those feelings.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 29 - Pray that you are going to do everything better today, InsyaAllah. Promise yourself that today is going to better than yesterday and tomorrow should be better than today. That's the only way to improve and move forward. If you're doing otherwise, whereby today is worse than yesterday - you're really regressing, not progressing here!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 30 - Pay attention to the needs of your body, mind, heart & soul. When your body is tired & your mind is exhausted, find rest by uplifting your emotion & spirit. Do not drown your soul with fake entertainment - providing temporary relief. Handle your fragile emotion with care.

Loves,
Dr. Har

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DR HARLINA'S SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tips no. 11 - 20

(Those who wish to have tips no. 1 - 10, kindly scroll down)

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no.11 - Remind yourself that teaching profession will not propel you to stardom and wealth. It is indeed a very humble and modest profession. If you're able to turn your teaching career into money-churning business, maybe it helps to pause awhile and rethink. Are you taking advantages of the public's (esp. parents') feeling of insecurity, inadequacy and ignorance? I really hope not....

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no.12 - Pat yourself at the back sometimes, especially after a long day at school. Convince yourself that you've done what you could, as best as you would. The end product is not yours to determine. It is indeed sad to see why students keep choosing wrong decisions all the time.At the end of the day, you just have to move on...

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no.13 - Smile whenever you're facing your students in class. Experience the `lightness & feel-good feeling' that comes with it. See the counter response from your students, they'll be more cheerful, relaxed and attentive. Enjoy the session together...and before you know it, there goes the bell!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 14 - Avoid burn out by ensuring that you're sincere in your teachings. At times when you feel like giving up, check your intentions - there might be secondary (inferior) motives. Pause, reflect & contemplate. You have to recharge your batteries & dynamo to keep shining!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 15 - Be a `student-friendly' and `stress-free' teacher. Provide a safe environment for your students to make mistakes and learn, yet be clear of what you expect from them. Only the best and nothing less! You can strike the balance between being fair, realistic and strict all at the same time.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 16 - Pray for your students, every single one of them. Visualize their faces as you say your prayers. Beg Allah to bestow you with wisdom, patience and dedication. You definitely depend on divine intervention to complete this noble teaching mission. Ask nothing in return, except for Allah's blessings.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 17 - Share a part of you with your students. Do not be aloof and detached from them. Tell them about your life experiences - esp. those that have changed you to be a better person. Yet, do not ever try to be boastful - they can easily tell when you're inflating yourself!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 18 - Be creative in class . Surprise your students with new style of teaching & learning materials. Bring them out of the class, guide them to discover the biggest book, spread open in-front of them : the world & universe. Learning is supposed to be fun, thrilling & enjoyable!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 19 - Contain your anger the next time you almost blow your top in front of the class! Push the `pause' button. Give yourself and the students time-out...I suggest you tell them why you're angry, assign a short redemption task , step out of the class, return after 10 min - InsyaAllah, you'll find a more cooperative class - how grateful they are that you do not shout this time!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS: Tip no. 20 - Be humble, lower down your wings. Humility will never make you inferior. Avoid being a snob, or feeling more superior. Stop looking down at others. It takes a lot of courage and sense of security to be humble, especially if you have achieved so much in life. You will gain more respect from students and colleagues if you're humble, Just mark my words.

Loves,
Dr. Har

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DR HARLINA'S SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tips no. 11 - 20

(Those who wish to read tips no.1 - 10, kindly scroll down)

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 11 - Try your best to make your teachers feel respected and appreciated. Take what is good from them, whilst forgive them for their shortcomings. Assist your teachers by getting actively involved in teaching learning activities. Make them interactive, lively, fun and enjoyable. Help your teachers, they need you to be on board!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 12 - Strengthen your friendship with peers, seniors & juniors. Don't be a loner. Help one another always. Study in a group, studying alone limits your understanding & perspective. The best way to learn is to teach! So, teach one another - you'll be amazed by the result of such teamwork.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 13 - Spend your holiday/semester break with your family. Visit your grandparents, uncles, aunts & cousins. Let them see the `new, better, matured' future family doctor whom they're so proud of. Impress them with your improved communication & interpersonal skills. Listen attentively to their complaints, groans & moans. Gently remind them, you're not yet licensed to treat...

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 14 - Manage your time wisely. Sleep early and wake up fresh. Do not compromise your sleeping time by spending too much time online. Chronic sleep deprivation will only result in higher level of stress! Stop the vicious cycle, NOW!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 15 - Pluck your courage to greet ALL your teachers when you meet them at the corridors/cafetaria/lifts etc. Don't expect them to remember your name, unless you're really exceptional. They might not be smiling back to you, but your consistent greetings will somewhat make your face familiar to them. At least they realize that you EXIST....and that really matters.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 16 - Train yourself to serve others always. After all, medical profession is about public servitude. Your calling is to go all out to help, assist and facilitate others. Altruism (placing other's interest before one self) is the keystone of medicine. Without it, the whole arch of medicine collapses!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 17 - Overcome your fear, sadness and uncertainties with constant reminder that what you're aiming for is not something ordinary. Training to be a medical doctor pushes you to your limits! Be warned, the sailing is not going to be smooth, it's an uphill climb, a lifelong commitment.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 18 - Learn to be genuinely interested in your patient's life - not simply his/her diseases. Remember this equation : Patient = Person + Disease. While learning how to doctor the disease, never forget to doctor the PERSON, who is made up of body, mind, heart & soul.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 19 - Jump out of the bed with enthusiasm and excitement each morning. Promise yourself that you're going to make full use of the many golden opportunities in front of you. Say your morning prayers consistently, without fail. Look into the mirror and say it out loud : I believe I can be a better person today, better than yesterday, InsyaAllah!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 20 - Be emotionally intelligent. Manage your emotions wisely. Remember, emotion is the window to your thoughts. When you're feeling happy and motivated, you're thinking positive thoughts. When you're feeling down and demoralized, your head is full with negative thoughts. Ask yourself, how much do you want to ALLOW the trigger/stimulus to affect you emotionally...it's your own choice!

Loves,
Dr. Har

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DR. HARLINA'S SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS / INTERNS - Tip no. 46 - 50

(For tips no. 1 -45, kindly scroll down to blog entry on July 26 - enjoy the tips!)

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS: Tip. no 46 -Convince yourself that you play a very important role in the healthcare system of the country. You might feel like a slave sometimes, being pushed around, instructed to do this & that. Just bear with those a little while more. You will soon transform to be a matured, experienced medical officer,in-charge of junior HOs who come after you.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS: Tip. no 47 - Think seriously about starting a family soon. Family commitment pushes you to another level of life and forces you to consider others in making decisions. If you're still looking for the right suitor, keep on praying. If you already have the potential suitor, just proceed making arrangement for a simple wedding. Let's continue with life..do not get stuck forever with your career!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS: Tip. no 48 - Clear up your mind, clean up your heart regularly and constantly. Spend your holiday in a quiet, peaceful outdoor environment. Keep in touch with nature. Feel the magnificent power of God, the Creator around you. Remind yourself, how small, weak and dependent you are to God's help every second of your life. Pray - O Allah, just don't leave me alone!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS: Tip. no 49 - Have the courtesy to meet and thank all your consultants, clinical specialists, registrars and MOs whom you have worked with, before finishing your posting in that particular department. Do not just disappear into thin air. Greet them at the corridors, acknowledge their presence.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS: Tip. no 50 - Get use to the fact that `Once a doctor, always a doctor!'. Internalize life-long learning commitment. You are allowed to add the title `Dr.' to your name, but be aware of the responsibilities that come with it. Prove that you deserve such a noble title to be put in front of your own name!

Loves,
Dr. Har

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TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 1 -12 (Nukilan Dr. Harlina Halizah Siraj)

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 1 - Ikhlaskan niatmu menjadi teman hidup pasanganmu. Ketetapan Allah memilih yang seorang ini buatmu, dari berjuta lelaki di dunia. Pasti ada hikmah yg tersirat dan tersurat. Ayuh, kita selongkar rahsia Allah itu dalam hidup seharian bersama, pasti di situ kau kan temui bahagia....

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 2 - Pertahankan ikatan pernikahan yang dibuat atas nama Allah yg Maha Agung. Hanya dgn nama-Nyalah, apa yang asalnya haram antara engkau & sidia, menjadi halal dan dibolehkan. Genggam erat ukhuwwah yg terjalin - penuh pasrah dan tawakkal.

TALIAN HAYAT UNTUK ISTERI : Nota 3 - Pandu arah kehidupan bersama ini semata2 utk mencari redha Allah. Saling bantu membantu dalam usaha kebaikan dan takwa. Kumpulkan sebyk mungkin bekalan. Moga tika kita terpaksa berlutut di depan Allah sendiri-sendiri, amal bakti yg kita kutip bersama mampu meraih belas ihsan Allah buat kita sekeluarga.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 4 - Fahamilah erti sebenar taat kepada suami yang disarankan agama. Ketaatan itu bukannya menurut semua perintah suami tanpa usul periksa. Demi hubungan yg harmoni & sejahtera, elok benar kalau siisteri yang mengalah / `surrendered',di saat kita mampu menunjuk lagak menyombongkan diri terhadap suami. Merendah diri bukan minta dipijak-pijak! Sekadar menunjuk akhlaq terpuji, agar tenang hati suami. Rugikah kita para isteri kalau kita taat secara rela diri?

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 5 - Selitkan doa setiap masa, moga Allah SWT mencampakkan hidayah-Nya ke dalam hati suami kita. Moga lebih cinta dia kepada iman, takwa dan ihsan. Moga dia terus gigih mencontohi suami teragung, Muhammad SAW. Mudah-mudahan jua, bersama kita meniti kehidupan dalam redha dan kasih sayang Allah setiap masa dan ketika!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 6 - Hargailah setiap usaha, kasih sayang, saraan hidup dan pemberian suamimu, insan kerdil yg begitu gigih cuba melaksanakan amanah berat di bahunya. Hentikan cemuhan, kritikan, sindiran dan perli dlm setiap patah ayat yg ditujukan utknya. Gantikan dgn kata semangat dan keyakinan yg mampu mendorongnya menjadi suami yg lebih menyerlah, InsyaAllah.

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 7 - Didiklah hati agar menyayangi wanita yang melahirkan suamimu, kenanglah jasanya mendidik anak lelakinya menjadi pasangan yang mengasihimu kini. Jangan sekali jadi musuh @ saingannya, sekalipun itu mungkin tanggapan ibu mertua terhadapmu. Yakinkan hatinya, bahawa engkau bukanlah perampas kasih anaknya. Engkau sebenarnya permata yang menyinari hidup suami dan juga penyeri hidupnya, jika dia sudi memberi peluang tersebut kepadamu!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 8 - Belajarlah untuk ikhlas dalam memberikan kasih sayang dan cinta utk suamimu. Seringkali ada sahaja niat dan sebab musabab lain semasa kita melafazkan ikrar kasih. Jika benar ikhlas, engkau takkan mudah kecewa jika sesekali seperti cintamu tidak berbalas, penat lelahmu tidak dihargai. Keikhlasanmu kan menjadi daya penarik yg kuat mengikat hati suamimu kepadamu!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 9 - Serlahkan bakat dan potensimu, gunakan kecerdasan dan keupayaanmu untuk memberi manfaat kepada orang lain. Prihatinlah kepada keperitan hidup masyarakat di luar sana, bantulah semampu boleh. Jadilah manusia yang banyak jasanya - pasti suami dan anak-anakmu bangga beristeri dan beribukan seorang yang istimewa seperti kamu!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 10 - Bijaklah mengurus masa, modal anugerah Allah kepada kita semua. Senaraikan keutamaanmu dan tumpukan usaha mendahulukan mana yang sepatutnya dibereskan dahulu. Dapatkan bantuan suami dan anak2 untuk menyelesaikan tugasan. Jangan bebankan dirimu cuba menjadi `wanita luarbiasa' - suamimu cuma inginkan seorang isteri solehah yg bijaksana!

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 11 - Beranikan dirimu untuk mempercayai kejujuran suamimu dalam melayari bahtera ini bersama. Sesungguhnya, kepercayaanmu ibarat titisan air yg diperlukan oleh rimbun untuk kekal menghijau. Tanpanya, ia akan layu kekuningan. Namun, suamimu perlu jua diperingatkan - agar cermat menjaga kepercayaan itu ibarat kaca yg mudah retak & calar. Sekali tercalar, mungkin selamanya terluka...

TALIAN HAYAT BUAT ISTERI : Nota 12 - Imbangilah antara kebergantunganmu kepada suami dgn keupayaanmu untuk berdiri di atas kaki sendiri. Pasrahmu yang total hanyalah kepada yg Maha Agung. Saling bergantung, perlu memerlukan adalah perencah kenikmatan hidup bersama. Jikalau masih sendiri-sendiri, apalah erti hidup sebumbung. Sementara dia masih ada di sisi, kita serahkan kemudi bahtera di tangan suami. Namun jika dia harus pergi, kita akan mampu memikul amanah yg ada, InsyaAllah!

Loves,
Dr. Har

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Dr Har sekeluarga dalam Episod 3 Resepi Umi TV AlHijrah 090811

Salam
Alhamdulillah, Selasa 9 Ramadhan lepas, Dr Har sekeluarga mengisi segmen Resepi Umi dalam TV Al Hijrah - dgn resepi Nasi Daging Cicah Air Asam & Pengat Ubi Tiga Serangkai. Siapa yg tak berkesempatan, boleh tgk dlm website TV Al-Hijrah : http://www.tvalhijrah.com/index.phpview=video&id=312&option=com_jomtube&Itemid=355#media.
Bagi Dr Har, amat bermakna segmen yg awal tu - bahagian interview kami sekeluarga. Menitis airmata mendengar komen Ustaz Zul, Syifa' & Syamil. JZKK suamiku dan anak2, moga kita terus bersama sebagai satu keluarga di Jannah nanti...Amin.

Loves,
Dr. Har

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DR HARLINA'S SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tips no. 1 - 10

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 1 - Reflect on the main reason you become a teacher in the first place. Was it your childhood dream or mainly because you did not have much choices then? Why on earth are you still a teacher now? Find the answers in your heart. What you are today is a result of how you first took off in this noble profession...

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 2 - Assign a special task to your students today : ` Write ONE word that best describes my teacher, Puan/Mrs/Dr/Prof/Mdm ....(fill in the blank with your own name)' Provide each student with a post-it note. Input should be anonymous. Pass around a small box to collect the notes. Paste them on a wall surface (in your bedroom) - the words describe what the students see in you!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 3 - Prioritize the weakest student in your class, instead of the cleverest. Those who are gifted with superb IQ could sail thru' without much of your help. It's the weakest who needs you the most. Don't ignore him/her. Look at her/him with a different perspective today - full with hopes & dreams!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 4 - Be a great teacher who inspires. From William Hart - a mediocre teacher tells, a good teacher explains, a superior teacher demonstrates & a great teacher inspires! Convince your students that you're a different breed of teacher - the one who really cares & prays for them, every time, every day!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 5 - Honour the students' trust in you. Keep their secrets. Do not spread out the private info they confided in you to other teachers in the school, unless it's related to safety and legal matters. Even then, just tell the principle/headmaster. Confidentiality is a part of teaching ethics.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS : Tip no. 6 - Teach with all your heart, imagine the students are your own flesh and blood. Thank Allah (again & again) for the honour of being a teacher. Focus your energy before stepping into class. Remind yourself of the responsibilities put on your shoulders. Finish this statement : ` At the end of this session, my students should be able to.....'

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS - Tip no.7 - Look back into history - all great individuals were teachers. Rasulullah SAW was a great mu'allim/murrabi. Imam Al-Ghazali, Ibnu Sina, Gandhi, Hippocrates, Buddha, Lao Tzu, Mother Teresa, the list is non-exhaustive. These great people shared a common teaching style - they touched the hearts of each student they encountered (student-centred teaching). How about you?

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS - Tip no.8 - Read, read and read more! Teachers are readers and readers are leaders. Lead your students to explore the marvellous world of knowledge & virtue. Look up for new books & re-read the old ones. Reading builds up creativity of teachers. So, what book are you reading now?

URVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS - Tip no.9 - Shine as your students' best role model, esp. for those who do not have one at home. Practise what you preach, and walk the talk. For students who only have bad role modelling all these while, YOU are their shining beacon, salvation and last hope. Don't let them down, please...

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TEACHERS - Tip no.10 - Serve as your students' life mentor. Do you still receive SMS, emails, wedding cards, festive greetings and well wishes years after your students have left school/college? Did the old students look for you whenever they came visiting? If so, rejoice...for you're indeed your students' life mentor! If not and you do not really mind, you might have never meant to be one.

Loves,
Dr. Har

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DR HARLINA'S SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tips no.. 1 -10

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 1 - Thank Allah (God) for this golden opportunity. Allow yourself to be trained with the basic medical knowledge, skills, attitudes and behaviours that are essential for the profession. If you're a caring, responsible, unselfish and emphatic person, half the battle is won. If you're not, it's a long way ahead!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 2 - Do not be afraid to make mistakes now. As students, you learn thro' your mistakes and corrections by your teachers. If you're scolded or criticized for your mistakes, be strong. You could only be hurt or affected as much as you have allowed yourself to be!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 3 - Look forward for your exams, instead of being depressed over them. Two reasons for that; first - exams are TRADEMARK of medical schools (they are here to stay!), secondly - they serve as signboards, telling you how close (or how far) you're to the destiny. Enjoy & cherish them!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 4 - Enhance your passion & hunger for knowledge. You might have your own learning style, but you can always switch your approach from superficial to deep. Learn because you really wanna know, not for simply passing exams (superficial approach)!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 5 - Appreciate the cooperative patients who have agreed to allow you to examine them. Give them their due respect. Despite their pain and misery, they let you `disturb' their rest/sleep. Promise yourself that you will be a competent doctor one day, so all the patients' sacrifice for you would not go wasteful!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 6 - Apply active participation in your learning process. Force yourself to come forward the next time your clinical teacher looks for a volunteer to clerk a patient, perform a physical exam, assist in a procedure or operation. You will be rewarded with a great sense of achievement, much more than your passive friends - even if you gonna get some criticism/ negative feedback at the end.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 7 - Do not procrastinate, submit assignments before deadline. Do not postpone till the very last minute, no matter how tempting it is to delay. Put in your best effort in everything you do. Be exceptional, not just a mediocre!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 8 - Ask questions, clarify any area of doubt. Make it a must to ask your teacher before a teaching session ends. Keep asking - there are no such things as stupid questions - only stupid answers! A lot of active, critical thinking must come before asking...it might be too much for some, eh? No wonder you all are no longer asking these days!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 9 - Never leave God behind in your pursuit to be the men/women of medicine. As healers, we are the INSTRUMENT of God's mercy. Continue your strive to be close to Him, for you will definitely need Him endlessly. It is through your hands, words, eyes and smiles that God is going to cure and care for the sick and fallen. May you deserve such honour!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 10 - Keep in touch with your parents & family. They're your best support. Update them with your progress. Include them into your busy, busy stressed-up life. Share with them your sorrow, but convince them that you'll be fine with their prayers tagged along.

Loves,
Dr. Har

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